Rural common saying “aunt dead, uncle buried, cousin cousin not to” he meaning?Does it reflect reality

2022-05-13 0 By

Chinese culture is extensive and profound, and has a long history. One of its branches is the common saying.Common saying is after generation after generation, mouth to mouth, spread so far, sometimes a common saying, on the surface seems to be easy to understand, but after careful taste, will find concise and comprehensive.Common sayings often contain a truth, which is the life experience and wisdom of ancient people.Some common sayings, is involved in interpersonal communication, the truth of life, such as “poor in downtown no one asked, rich in the mountains have distant relatives”, “a thin dog more tendon, the poor more close”, “the poor in the cross street, playing ten steel hook, hook can not relatives.Rich people in remote mountains and old forests, brandishing knives and guns and clubs can not scatter friends without righteousness.”And so on, this kind of common saying, a lot of people talk about people’s feelings, and interests together, talk about the fickleness of the world.Today we are going to talk about this common saying, called — “aunt dead, uncle buried, Cousins do not come”, what is the meaning?Is it scaremongering?Or reflect reality?This idiom means:”If aunt or uncle dead, then the correspondence between Cousins, then gradually less, feelings will grow weak” once people come in this world, a lot of things is doomed, among them, the relatives is born, like born cannot choose their own, in a sense, the person also is unable to choose their own relatives.In many relatives and elders, aunts and uncles are related to their own blood, among them, aunts are their father’s sister or sister, and uncles are their mother’s brother or younger brother.In the eyes of the ancients, to maintain the family ties of blood is under the ancient predominantly patriarchal clan society, aunt belongs to his married, belongs to the mother’s husband’s family and uncle, again by the ancients “married daughter, pour out the water” the concept of first impressions are most lasting, relative to character, look from the related personal relationship, relative than uncle aunt and uncle.Among them, the most intuitive expression is aunts, uncles and their children, not with their own worship at the same ancestral temple, on the contrary, uncles and their children worship at the same ancestral temple.As time goes by, the descendants of aunts or uncles will be excluded from the “nine ethnic groups”. As the saying goes, “one generation of relatives, two representatives, three generations and four generations will be pulled down”. This is the truth.That is to say, aunt or uncle, is the node that maintains oneself and cousin relation, as aunt or uncle of old go, oneself and cousin also have already become a family respectively, respective busy own thing, as time passes, between person and person, gradually go gradually far, the relation also is more and more weak.As the saying goes, “Uncles and Cousins break bones and tendons.Aunt close is not close, dead aunt broke off the close “, speak such a truth.Then, does the saying “aunt is dead, uncle is buried, cousin is not coming” still hold true?Does it reflect the reality of modern people?In fact, now, this saying is not completely correct, the common saying is talking about “aunt, uncle”, but not “uncle”, essentially is the ancients “son preference” concept at work.Nowadays, people pay more attention to relatives, pay more attention to the feelings of relatives, and even some people are closer to aunts, aunts, and Cousins to establish a deep relationship, keep in touch for a lifetime, in real life, such examples are not in a few.The key to lasting success in any relationship is affection.Therefore, we should treat this saying dialectically.What do you think about that?Comments are welcome.